Winning is the focus of the ego. Losing can be the focus of the ego. To win is to be damaged, to lose is to forgive; this is the view of the ego. Winning means that the self has now turned bitter, angry, resentful, myriad negative behaviors flourish from the pain seeded by another, when the self took another’s lesson failure personally. Losing means forgiving, forgetting indeed, the transgressions of another, as they fail the lessons presented to them. The ego views this loss personally and will not endorse forgiveness under any circumstance, for damage of the self means negativity and the ego seeks to create more and more negativity, so that it may maintain its dominion above all other bodies. It is the ego that encourages holding onto the hurt feelings, it is the ego that refuses the widened vision that sees all things confronting the other, that understands that failed lesson is painful for all – not only the self who has perceived damage for the self. All humans provide service by playing the dark role by presenting the self to determine if the self has learned the lesson or if the self will once again choose to be damaged. Until the self can present the self as service and refuse damage, the lesson has not yet been learned. The student that stands solid in the barrage of words, in the barrage of violence, indeed stands solid in the face of all that which is provided by one who is failing to learn – disallowing anything beyond the physical damage to impact the self and the physical damage heals and is quickly forgotten. It is this consciousness that has learned. The bulk of humanity has yet to achieve this status.

The student that walks the path to healing begins to travel with the consciousnesses that affinity is found within the spiritual arena, for in order to progress rapidly the self need be supported by another who understands the self’s goals. One, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten, twenty, thirty, forty – as many as possible are planned to come into the life to share for an hour, a day, a week, a month, a year, five years, ten years, twenty years, fifty years – each consciousness chosen purposefully, to bring to the self the experience that is most needed. This intervention of another consciousness is often referred to as a preincarnative agreement. Agreement has been reached between the Teacher and the consciousness that service will be provided to the self in the lifetime; this service could bring darkness or love - that which is recognized as darkness, that which is recognized as love – for in truth, both are love.

The soul family shifts and reduces slowly, lifetime after lifetime, as the self seeks to bring forth – to surround the self in fact, with those who are walking similar path, for in this way, the likelihood of one awakening and then impacting the other is increased dramatically. It is important when surveying those about the self that have assisted the self greatly – either through difficult experience or that which has opened the eyes of the self - it is most important for the self to recognize that the inner Teacher has drawn this individual into your sphere purposefully. It may or may not have been in response to preincarnative agreement; suffice it to say that many agreements are made that are not kept, as the consciousness chooses not to provide the service that was agreed upon due to their own lesson failure or due to their own lesson integration. One who has agreed to play the dark role and has learned the lessons in lifetimes following the time when the agreement was reached, oftentimes is unable to provide this service and the inner Teacher must find another who would be willing to provide the experience most needed by the self.

All humans provide service by playing the dark role or by presenting the self to determine if the self has learned the lesson or if the self will once again choose to be damaged. Until the self can present the self as service and refuse damage, the lesson has not yet been learned.