Denial does not believe in apology because Denial is superior and arrogant; Denial does no wrong – it is the other, always, that need be focused upon. If apology is necessary, it is obvious that the other misunderstood or that the other asked the self a query inappropriately, causing the self to misspeak. Forgiveness is not extended by one who cannot recognize that damage has been imposed upon another due to the self’s blindness - if there is no damage, then apology is unnecessary and forgiveness completely unneeded.

It is the lesson plan of Shame that makes forgiveness neigh onto impossible, for Shame is contemptuous, Shame is diminishing - Shame believes that the grudge must be maintained, so that all may see that the other is less than the self.

Separation - highly mental…if understanding can be achieved, forgiveness is readily extended; if understanding cannot be achieved, forgiveness is withheld.

The lesson plan of Guilt blames if the self has suffered and, the self or another is blamed for this suffering, the self is unable to see that all is lesson that each experiencing are intended to learn. Forgiveness is often difficult for the individual who blames another, for like Shame, the grudge is preferred; the self believes, “I need remember this so that it never happens to me again. If I forgive, I may forget – that shall never happen.”

These are the lessons that are part of your lesson plan my sister. It is to take these understandings into meditation and to seek assistance for those components of the core beliefs that prohibit the self from extending true forgiveness to another.

It is important my brother(Sol) for you to see yourself, to see yourself at all times, particularly when you are attempting to convince another that no error has been made on your part or that you are being blamed inappropriately or that you feel accused or that you feel defense and protection have suddenly become vital to your survival. It is to recognize that viewpoints are opinion – they are not truth; often they are not even the truth of the individual speaking. It is important for you to approach all things objectively, for that is indeed the goal of all students – to be the student prepared for debate. Will I be presenting the positive or the negative case this day?

It is to realize that all opinions that vary from the own are to be welcomed, to invite the other to share that which is believed by the self without threat, without undermining, eliminating the convincing tone that is often utilized to push the self’s own agenda – that which the self has come to believe.

It is February the 12th, 2012. It is the four of us and we are going to focus upon the line energies of Shame. Shame - it’s a disgusting, vile lesson plan. [All laugh.]

Student: Nothing like a metaphorical teaching.

It is probably one of the most dreaded lesson plans because it seeks to damage. It is provided to those who have struggled to vocalize what the self thinks, what the self feels in previous lifetimes. It is the lesson plan that teaches the student how to be present physically and how to inflict damage emotionally. The positive aspects of Shame can be drawn from the opposites just mentioned; it allows the individual to get the energies outside of the body because all is vocalized. If it is thought, if it is believed, it will be imposed upon another and the other will be tested severely by the student with Shame to stand up for the self, to say “No thank you” to the offerings and to continue forth to be the self even though the force of will of the other is extraordinary.

It’s a great service that is provided by those students of Shame. It’s important to recognize that the student of Shame rarely has major physical maladies due to energies being maintained within the body, until the student steps forth and takes the hand of the Teacher, seeking to walk the path once again. This isn’t to say that there are no physical problems; it is to say that they are typically not severe in nature because the student has eliminated these energies, they have spent them, they have spewed them, they have shared them - they have gotten them outside of the self’s bodies.

To recognize the qualities of Shame is to survey the other. It’s to ask the self the questions: “Are they attempting to damage me? Do I feel that they go for the jugular? Have I exposed my weakness or did they expose my weakness? Do I feel that their attention is unjustified? Do I feel them scratching at my door to learn more about me privately so that it can be used in future against me?”

It is to recognize the difference in quality – the reason why the other seeks the self’s company. If the lesson plan is Denial, it is to garner information, the seeking of knowledge that the self can provide; similar reasons exist for Separation. Repression is not typically drawn to the lesson plan of Shame for information; there is an easy friendship, an easy relationship can be enjoyed, for Shame recognizes Repression and Repression recognizes the accelerated energies of Shame and is wise enough to steer clear of controversy. Guilt and Rejection are the victims often for the student with the lesson plan of Shame. Rejection must learn to stand on the own two feet, to be the self at all cost – the self that is unconditional love. Shame feeds the victim that belongs to Guilt, providing it with ample ammunition in future, telling others how the self has been victimized, how the self has been damaged, to garner the sympathy of others, for it is fuel to the victim.